BOUNDARY WORKBOOK

Saying yes when you mean no is killing your relationship

You know that sinking feeling when your partner asks if something's okay, and you say "sure" even though every fiber of your being is screaming no? You're trying to be the cool, evolved partner. You don't want to be controlling or restrictive. So you swallow your discomfort and hope it goes away.

It doesn't. It festers. And six months later, you're lying in bed replaying every situation you agreed to that crossed your boundaries. The resentment is real. The anxiety before they go on dates is unbearable. And you're stuck because bringing it up now feels like you're "changing the rules" or being unfair.

Meanwhile, you've read the books. You've listened to the podcasts. You understand the theory of boundaries versus rules. But when you're actually in the moment, trying to figure out what you need and how to say it without sounding controlling? You freeze. Or worse, you create rigid rules that your partner experiences as restrictive, and now you're the "difficult" one holding everyone back.

Most ENM couples spend 6-12 months stumbling through trial and error, damaging trust along the way, because they're trying to figure this out through Google searches and Reddit threads written by strangers who don't know their relationship.

Here's what you'll work through

This workbook gives you 52 specific exercises you can work through together, starting tonight. Not theory. Not philosophy. Actual step-by-step practices that help you identify what you need (even when you're not sure), communicate it clearly (without guilt or manipulation), and establish boundaries that create both freedom and security. You'll stop second-guessing yourself and start building agreements that actually work.