JEALOUSY WORKBOOK
Learn how to transform jealousy into connection
Get instant access to practical exercises designed specifically for ethical non-monogamy. Learn how to navigate insecurity, build trust, and develop a strong bond in your open relationship.
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Jealousy doesn't mean you're doing ENM wrong
Jealousy shows up for almost everyone exploring non-monogamy. It doesn't matter if you've been open for years or just started the conversation last week. The gut-wrenching feeling when your partner connects with someone new? Totally normal.
What's not normal is letting it silently erode your relationship while you try to "figure it out" on your own. Most couples spend months (if not years) stuck in the same painful cycle. You talk in circles, make promises to "work on it" but nothing actually changes. Meanwhile, resentment builds. Trust weakens. And that exciting freedom you thought ENM would bring? It starts feeling like a mistake.
The issue is not the jealousy itself, it's how you handle it.
Generic relationship advice doesn't cut it when you're navigating ENM. And therapy? That's expensive, assuming you can find someone who actually understands non-monogamy.
What you'll get
This workbook gives you targeted exercises you can start tonight. No waiting for appointments. No explaining your lifestyle to someone who doesn't get it. Just practical, proven tools that help you identify exactly what's triggering your jealousy. Learn how to communicate about it without spiraling into blame, and gradually build a strong bond that's based on trust.
For less than a lunch, you get a complete system both partners can use again and again. Most couples see noticeable shifts within the first week of working through these exercises together.
What's Inside
- Identify your specific jealousy triggers and the real fears hiding underneath them
- Use powerful communication tools to have productive talks instead of painful arguments
- Build emotional resilience through proven self-regulation techniques
- Create your personal action plan for handling jealousy when it shows up
- Start building a stronger non-monogamous relationship tonight
What Couples Say
Incredible resource!! It worked really well for us and gave us the much needed clarity, because at times this has been overwhelming to say the least. We’ve grown a lot since opening our marriage and this book has been a very valuable tool for us.
The Jealousy Workbook helped make a very scary journey less scary. We worked our way through the chapters and exercises, and talked to each other honestly and expressed our feelings and desires.
I love this workbook so much, it’s highly practical and accessible. It's very helpful for anyone who is struggling with jealousy in an open relationship. I’ve recommended it to all my ENM friends.
Table of Contents
Seven chapters and three appendices. Theory where you need it, exercises everywhere else.
Foundation
- What makes jealousy in ENM different
- What this workbook offers
Jealousy in ENM Is Harder
- Agency and vulnerability
- Why your nervous system doesn't care about your rules
- The gains and losses
Types of Jealousy in ENM
- Sexual, emotional, comparison, and time & resource jealousy
- When you catch feelings & the NRE problem
- The Jealousy Scale
- Jealousy in ENM relationship structures
Coping Skills for Jealousy
- Practical demos for defusing jealous thoughts
- The choice point
- Self-compassion: your foundation for everything else
- Your coping skills toolkit
Roots of Jealousy
- Schemas and attachment styles
- 5 core beliefs that create jealousy
- Working with core fears
- Rewiring through reality
Communication Is the Key
- Why miscommunication happens & signs you can't ignore
- Five non-negotiable communication rules
- Communication isn't one-size-fits-all
Compersion
- What compersion actually is
- When it shows up naturally
- What you're actually building
Self-Regulation Toolkit
- 10 grounding and self-regulation techniques for acute jealousy moments
Worksheets & Planners
- Jealousy Journal & Thought Record
- Self-Compassion Letter
- Monthly Relationship Check-In
Recommended Resources
- Curated books on ENM, ACT, and attachment
Questions Couples Ask Before Buying
Straight answers, including the ones that might talk you out of it.
We haven't opened our relationship yet. Is this only for couples already practicing ENM?
It works at any stage, and doing it before you open is honestly the cheaper order of operations. You'll meet your jealousy in a workbook exercise instead of at 1am while your partner is on a date.
If you're already open and firefighting, the coping-skills and self-regulation chapters give you tools you can use this week.
Wouldn't couples therapy be the better option?
If you can find an ENM-friendly therapist you both like, therapy is a genuinely good option. It's also expensive, often involves waitlists, and many therapists simply don't understand non-monogamy.
This workbook starts tonight for a fraction of one session, with exercises developed with a psychologist experienced in ENM. It also pairs well with therapy; many couples bring their completed exercises into sessions as raw material.
What if my partner won't do the exercises with me?
Start alone; the workbook is built for that. The trigger-mapping, self-compassion, and self-regulation chapters are solo work by design, because your jealousy is yours to understand first.
In practice, one partner calmly naming their actual fear instead of spiraling tends to be the thing that gets the other partner curious enough to join.
Isn't jealousy just a sign that ENM isn't for us?
No; jealousy shows up for almost everyone in non-monogamy, including people thriving in it for decades. The people who thrive don't feel less jealousy; they've learned to ride it instead of drowning in it.
It's a skill, not a verdict. That skill is exactly what the 47 exercises train.
What if it doesn't work for us?
Then you get your money back. There's a 30-day guarantee, no questions asked; email us and we refund you.
The risk of trying it is $19.99 fully refundable. The risk of not addressing jealousy is usually measured in months of resentment. That trade is why we can offer the guarantee.
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